“Help!! I’m Stuck – I’m Procrastinating Myself To Oblivion!”
If you are self-sabotaging yourself and you’ve read my last article, then you’ll know that 1 in 5, (yes 20%!) of the world population do the same!
Staggering though that may be, frankly, I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s higher!
My message in my last article was to take heart and understand that it IS possible to overcome self-sabotage and procrastination and I gave you 5 simple tools for overcoming procrastination.
However, I am well aware that even if you use those tools, keeping up the momentum of using them can be a challenge and so in order to make those new behaviours ‘stick’ you need to know that…
All behaviours can be broken down into three parts.
- Physiology – how you carry and hold your body, how you breath, your movements etc.
- Your Beliefs – the things we hold to be true that keep us in the behaviour – e.g. you may believe that only people who know a LOT more than you do can be successful in internet marketing
- Your self-talk i.e. The things you say to yourself – e.g. maybe you tell yourself “I’m not good enough” or “What’s wrong with me?”
So… maybe you can see that if you change just ONE of the above three – the behaviour will change!
Don’t believe me?
Well my teacher, Anthony Robbins taught me to always begin with physiology!
Why? Well… try it!!
Suppose for example you are indulging in the behaviour of feeling ‘depressed’.
As well as obvious debilitating beliefs and self-talk, there’s no doubt the behaviour of depression has a very distinctive physiology.
A typical ‘depressed’ person may for example breath shallow, put their head down, shoulders hunched and if possible, be sat or laying down, rather than being active.
So… go for a brisk walk!
I’m not kidding – try it if you’re feeling low and think about the effect it would have on if you just want to understand my example.
Just the PHYSICAL act of walking WILL change your state! Walking briskly will likely change it more, since depression is typically a sedentary behaviour.
Will it cure your depression? No! We still have to look at those disempowering beliefs and crummy self-talk!
But I absolutely guarantee it will certainly lower the intensity of the feeling of ‘depressed’ in that moment and maybe for some time after too!
What’s the significance of this?
Think about it… we all know we can change our mood, just by thinking something different, move differently… so there’s an important clue!
Our behaviours are NOT written in tablets of stone!
In my Life Coaching practise I get people moving (even getting them to fetch a glass of water makes a difference!) – and THEN we tackle those crummy beliefs and nonsensical self-talk!
Of course some behaviours take a little more time and effort to shift than others AND if you don’t replace the disempowering behaviour with an empowering one… then the whole thing is going to slip back.
So, that’s why in my last article I offered 5 empowering behaviours, some were just practical and others were much more to do with making a subtle but powerful shift in your identity!
If you would like more help with shifting your dis-empowering, self-sabotaging behaviours, then by all means get in touch.
From time to time I have a vacancy for new clients and I’m always happy to talk in any case!
Remember, if you want change in your life….
The Change Begins With YOU!
Robin J Emdon
Life Coach & Attraction Marketing Professional
Email: [email protected]